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Unsent Letter to my Dad

Have you ever written a letter that you have never sent? My father and I had a rough relationship growing up. I had not felt his presence even though he is with us at home. We never felt his authority as a father. A year before his tragic death I wrote this letter to my dad. Until now, this has served me a lot of reminders to be a better dad to my kids.

The Letter

Dead Pa,

Why did you bring me this far? Did you bring me this far only to show me how it feels like? Why did you marry my mom? Why did you carry me to the hospital? And why did you send me to school? Why do you always sing but you did not teach us how to sing? Or why did you not ever attend my school PTA/family day or any activity?  You did not attend any of my recognition rites and my graduation ceremonies my entire life? Pa, why? For all those years, why did you not guide me to choose my sports when I was a teenager?

Growing up, why did you not teach me how to choose a girlfriend? Why did you not bring me to a park? When I was a kid why did you not buy me toys? Why did I not experience a kiss from you? When I had my first sex urge why did you not even care for me? We do not even do anything, why are you always mad at us? Why did you not teach me how to play basketball? Why do you always look for a reason to scold us? For all those years, I have not told your this, and now that I am a father I will always make it a chance for me a better dad. More of what I missed when I was growing up with you.

So now, even if you have not heard me say I love you, I want to say thank you for at least not stopping me to achieve my dreams. Thank you for just smiling at me. I realized, thank you for scolding me, in those days I felt that there is somebody who cares for me.

Thank you,

Sincerely,

Jack, Your son.

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Why did you not buy Life Insurance?

This letter to my dad serves as my reminder. All these questions I have asked my entire life.  These questions I have kept my whole life. But I never asked you these questions when you are still alive.  Now that you are gone I would always keep these questions in my heart.  I will wait for the time that when I meet you in heaven I would still have a chance to ask you the same. Why did you not buy life insurance?

Don’t wait for the last breath of your loved ones. Ask them your questions. There is no harm in asking.

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Time is Gold!

As the saying goes so as your life.  The time you spend to your loved ones will create or it will not create memories that you will treasure when they pass on.  My father and I had a rough day. 

If you have just started your family.  Your precious time will spell a great difference to your children and to your wife.  Do something worth changing to your usual routine.  Now do something that they will treasure their entire life.  Do something that moment will never be the same.

Spend time with your family every single day of your life.  Time is the most precious gift you could ever give to your family.  Money and treasure may be gone but the memories will last forever.  Be with them every single celebration, it might be a wedding anniversary, birthday, graduation, moving up-day or even just a simple learning you’ve got will create a wonderful definition of your time with them. May this letter to dad serve as your wake up call to power up your moments with your family.

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Cherish Every Moment

Don’t wait for their last breath.  Do n’t wait for your chasing moment to visit them in the hospital because they are fighting for their health.  Don’t wait for the time that you are available to visit them during their funeral or at their tomb.

Life is so precious to waste! So every time to are given a chance to be with your loved one, take a pause and ask, how will I make this time worthy for us to treasure.  Take every single moment of your life as if it is the last day of your life.

As for me, I could not bring back the time to tell my dad how much I thank him for bringing me this far.  Though I am thankful that no matter how rough childhood I had, no matter how undesirable life we had during those times.  I believe that God has fostered my strength to face the challenges I had today. 

Those moments that I missed could be restored by remembering the time with my dad without grudges.  Those moments where I miss his hug and kiss when I was longing for one was my iron that sharpens my emotion.

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Smile No Matter What Happen

Today I can face tomorrow with a smile and tears. Smile that no matter what happens I am stronger and courageous to what will life brings. Even if this letter to dad was not sent but I know that he is reading this in heaven.

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20 thoughts on “Unsent Letter to my Dad

  1. I feel sorry to hear what you have with your father. I know God has something better for you when you had those experiences. God is loving and He will gracious to give you something you can use in life. What you have experience will make you strong. Keep believing Him!

  2. Fathers Shape Their Daughters Self Esteem. … When fathers are present, and loving, their daughters develop a strong sense of self and are more confident in their abilities. I miss him.

  3. Well, a mother can always shower her love to her children, but Dads, in order to be a strong commanding force, always holds back. This post is relatable to every child because that’s how Dads are ought to be in our society, yelling and complaining all the time. We all wish to be a little closer to them emotionally.

  4. I cannot speak for your father but I do believe it’s important to remember that people are just human with all their shortcomings and faults. You do although sound like you came through it all as a strong and caring person and perhaps that was what this experience was meant to teach you.

  5. I was raised by my mother, my father would see us every other weekend until I was 12. After my 12th birthday, he no longer picked up my brother and I. I am 32 years old now and he’s never gone out of his way to come see me or my children. I’ve never let it bother me, I feel he is the one who is missing out.

  6. This was an interesting tie to the importance of life insurance. Right now my friends and I are facing this situation in our older ages so this reminder is very timely.

  7. Wow there seems to be so much emotion in these words but followed up with such an important message. This is a really interesting post indeed.

  8. I am into tears after reading this. Very emotional. Your honesty and your pain is so pure and honest. Mother is always expressive but father remains strong and doesn’t show his emotions every time

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